My 38th Birthday + My Visit Home
I cannot believe that I am thirty-eight years old! I know, you are shocked, but I am a product of a Melanin Queen, aka my mother and I am the Melanin Goddess. We age like fine wine, honey!
Last year, my birthday was AWFUL! After dealing with the unexpected loss of my grandfather, who is my real life father figure and adjusting to living in a new city, it was HARD! Let’s not mention, and I was also stressed out to the MAX at my job (I was working there during that time, but through the grace of God, I am free from that hell-hole - Lord, forgive me).
Honestly, I was not expecting a great birthday this year, but God said otherwise. He showed me that I am loved and cherished by so many amazing people. My celebration was ongoing for weeks, and I couldn’t be happier. Now let’s keep it real for one moment. Most women (like myself) expect a great birthday spending time with your significant other, loving one another and feeling like a queen. Last year, I wished for that, but this year, I did not receive that. I am single, and my mindset has completely changed. Even though I did not spend my birthday with my (prayed for) significant other, I spent it with friends who genuinely love me for me. That alone made me feel whole.
On my actual birthday, I decided to take a self-care day. I started my day with coffee on my patio while reflecting on my year and future, I finally had a chance to visit the High Museum of Art, I treated myself to a pedicure, and finally ended my day with a business dinner with the Atlanta Chapter of Promote-Her.
The last stretch of my birthday shenanigans, I booked a trip to my hometown to see my family and spend some time with my friends. My visit was amazing, even though it was only for three days. Granted, I would have loved to catch up with all of my friends at home, but my trip was entirely too short, and my family is my priority. I had a chance to visit my house where I grew up, sit on the very same porch whereas a little girl, I played with my Barbie dolls, I sat and visioned my life as an adult, where I experienced losses of friends, boyfriends, and family members. This is the same porch where my family saw me off to prom and graduation from high school — the same porch where basically, Jennifer became Jennifer. Sitting on the porch grounded me as I look at where I am today. It gave me an extra push to go even harder with my business.
Being home gave me so much clarity. I felt vindicated, knowing that people finally see all of my hard work, dedication, and sacrifice finally starting to come full circle. I am not the typical woman who dedicates her career in the corporate sector. I am not the woman who can be placed in a box and living a cookie cutter life. I am a woman who is free as a bird - a creative, and it took me years to finally let my family see me as an artist. They finally see my vision coming to life. I couldn’t be happier! That is why my thirty-eighth birthday was one of my best yet.
To my friends and family who I did not get a chance to visit during my time home, I am sorry. Please don’t take things personally. Three days is not enough time to see everyone. I send all of my love to you.
Be great and amazing,